A little mirror for you
See how you gain a sense of security, handle disagreements, and sustain mutual investment
40 original questions across five dimensions — attachment anxiety, attachment avoidance, communication and repair, boundary clarity, and reciprocal investment — revealing your stable patterns in close relationships.
Start the Test →In short: Know Thyself's attachment test uses 40 original questions to measure attachment anxiety, attachment avoidance, communication repair, boundary clarity, and reciprocal investment — your relationship pattern manual in about 8 minutes, kept forever.
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When someone important to you is briefly out of sight, is your attention captured by 'why haven't they replied'? This dimension reflects how sensitive you are to being responded to in a relationship.
The closer a relationship gets, the more you may want space of your own. A high score means you are used to digesting emotions alone — handling things before feelings.
How quickly you can restart a conversation and own your part after a disagreement. One of the most critical dimensions for whether a relationship lasts.
How steadily you can say 'yes' and 'no'. People with clear boundaries are less trapped in the please-then-explode cycle.
Your sense of proportion in giving and receiving within a relationship. Long-term one-way investment is a major source of relational exhaustion.
The items are behavioral adaptations based on attachment theory and relationship research. No labels — only the distribution of your behavioral tendencies. For self-exploration; not a psychological diagnosis.
40 questions, about 8 minutes. Answer with your most common real reactions over the past three months — don't pick the 'more ideal' answer.
Results are stored on your device. Answer once, review forever, and generate a share card.
If you want to see your stable patterns in this area and spend less energy guessing and blaming yourself, this test offers a mirror, not a verdict. It suits anyone going through a confusing phase — and anyone simply curious to know themselves better.